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WAWIBF... Susan Hughes

18 June 2004

Infidelity is a terrible thing. It gives rise to what are probably the most painful, least bearable emotions you will ever experience. Think back if you've experienced it; think back to that moment when you discovered that the person whose love had convinced that life was actually worthwhile really couldn't give that much of a stuff about you, or at least not enough not to run their teeth and tongue over someone else's genitals, not to stare intently into someone else's eyes whispering words of illicit love.

Even death is easier. There is no betrayal in death. Indeed you probably found yourself thinking in your most hurt moments, 'If only s/he'd died. That would have been so much easier.' Which occasionally might have led you to thoughts of revenge. 'Maybe I can make the fucker die?' But few of you will have actually killed because of betrayal. Fair enough. You can't be blamed for your lack of action. Murder is a little extreme.

But there are other forms of revenge. Picture the scorned woman slashing her husband's clothes, pouring acid on his car, stuffing his curtain rail with prawns or snipping off his penis and tossing it into a field. Picture the cuckolded man stalking with intent... um... Yes, maybe women are better at revenge. Or maybe it's just that they're much more commonly at the wrong end of the shitty stick of infidelity.

Now however, thanks to twice-deceived Susan Hughes, there is another option. It's called http://www.cheated-on.com and, despite being one of the least visually appealing websites you will ever see, it does provide a public service of sorts. As Susan has explained to anyone who will listen over the last week or so, the aims of the site vary from giving the hurt a chance to tell their story and make friends with other weeping losers, to, perhaps more importantly, taking revenge by 'naming and shaming your love rat'. There is even a gallery where you can post your love rat's picture.

Many of the people who have flocked to the site you do feel genuinely sorry for. Others are loathsome and stupid and you feel they probably had it coming. Overall, the site just brings it home just how deeply unattractive revenge really is and makes you wonder whatever happened to a little thing called dignity.

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